Should Politics Matter to Couples?

I hope this was an intriguing title because I honestly don’t have the answer. I do have my own experience as my husband and I have been together 10 years and married for 2 years. Marriage and dating is very different but together we found out each others values early on. Values beyond beliefs and political preferences. To us, politics don’t matter. You are probably thinking…well if politics is not important to your relationship then what the heck are you doing writing about it? I actually have the answer to this one! I’m a fixer. I saw a problem and felt passionate enough to write my perspective on the issue in hopes to change the world… It’s okay, I’m laughing too!

Talk About It.

I am in no way claiming we do it “right” or “well”. So don’t quote me…

Not just in marriage, but in every relationship you should seek to listen to a persons values. However, when it comes to politics, do not define that person by their preference of party. I do not want anyone to see or hear my name and automatically pin me as a republican or democrat who has a political blog. I’m much more than that and at this point I would hope you have read most of the posts and found I’m not writing on behalf of one party. I am writing on behalf of every person – believer or not, democrat or not.

Go Deep.

Talking about where you both stand on political issues can deepen your relationship. I asked Sean before writing this questions to gain more content. Just in listening to his answers, I found out a little more about him. Just like when I told him I was going to start a blog about politics and religion, he learned just how much I cared to share my experiences.

We believe as a couple that:

  • It’s important to know what is going on in the world. It is foolish to be blinded from what is happening around you by choosing not to look.
  • Have a healthy balance of knowing enough of what is going on but not so much it dictates most of your life.
  • We do not assume by lumping a certain party together that they all believe the same thing as one another.

Do Not…I Repeat Do Not Try to Change Them!

Your relationship is founded on mutual respect for one another. You have not had the same experiences and their perspective is probably valid! It took us time to figure out our own stance on politics because we were so focused on our religious beliefs. I’ll say it again, politics do not matter in the big picture. In other words, Sean and I do not live for our country.  We strive to function in unison to replicate God’s image and expand His rule in the world through our individual callings. So together we have the same end goal. When approaching political conversations, you have to keep in mind you may not agree with them but their perspective is still valid. It’s disrespectful to think you can change them to “your side”. They are their own person just as much as you are. If political party is important, you need to bring that up early on to avoid trying to change them.

Take a Lap.

When conversations turn to arguments…take a lap. It’s really not that serious. “Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things.” Colossians 3:2

How do you and your significant other talk about politics? Share with me and note if you mind it being shared below.







Christians Are Arrogant

Many times I have been made to think I am arrogant. Some of the things I say come off very direct/harsh. For years I have cared so much about how people view me while trying to stay true to my beliefs. The media and some far right Christians have put a bad wrap on what Christianity is supposed to be. I know that’s incredibly strong but…hey, I’m arrogant remember? It is no easy life no matter how big you smile or how easy things look on social media. If you find yourself in the same boat, you may be thinking, “But I do it out of love!” I know, but to others you are arrogant and nobody wants to be around someone who’s telling them what is unhealthy for their life. Even if “the Bible tells me so…”

So What Does the Bible Say About Politics?

2 Things:

  1. First of all, God knew the world needed saving long before any national government was founded. Hence, Jesus. God sent Jesus to walk this earth to demonstrate to the world that redemption could not be accomplished through the power of man alone, his economic strength, his military might, or his politics. Jesus was fully God and fully man. Jesus taught those around him that with God, all things are possible. In other words, God permeates and supersedes all aspects of life. Leaders rise up whether they are good, bad, evil or great. People have free will. Those that abuse their political power, capital gain, etcetera, God is working and will turn it towards His will. He already won.
  2. Secondly, you are taught to obey the laws of the land and take responsibility to be a good citizen. You can only hope our authority is for us as a collective but do not put all your faith in the government or a political leader. You see, all of this is for the bigger picture. Your voice during elections matter and you should exercise your right by voting. Vote for a leader that best demonstrates Christian values and biblical truths. Huge emphasis on demonstrates because talking is not the same as walking and living it out. Your intentions are only as good as your actions.

Betting = Failure

Have you noticed that you are betting on a president to live a godly life? Humans are full of flaws. That’s like betting in this scenrio: You are given a test by a teacher before you learn about a subject. No prior quizzes, homework or lecture was given. You have some hope because you remember you heard about the topic before but this test you find extremely challenging. You fail it. That’s how life works. That’s also how Christians are called to live daily. You have this huge test called life. The Bible is your study guide. Life comes with a teacher and classmates to learn from. It’s your choice how you prepare for the test that’ll also determine your outcome.

You cannot walk this life alone. You will always find yourself turning to others for answers, approval, questions. So why not try turning to God who is bigger than all your problems and has a book with stories and answers that relate to your problems? Don’t knock it before you try it because when I did, I found that every time He was right on. You have to first accept then experience His crazy love in order to really know.


My mission is not in changing the world through political reform. My mission is changing hearts through the Word of God. That is because God permeates and supersedes all facets of life. You should obey the laws set forth by authority because if you can’t practice that, then you won’t practice the Laws set before you, by God. Only through practice, obedience, grace and love for yourself will you truly grasp the teachings of God. Which is your life test on how to truly love others, show them grace, and actively live out in love. 

Go ahead and reply below to start a conversation!

Exciting News for LB!

So remember I told you in my last post I had good news? I didn’t know if I would actually have good news but I declared it! Well…your girl got the job she had been praying and waiting for months! I had to work on patience and be obedient to God’s timing. It was not easy. I had many rough days but I persevered. This job will allow me to spend more time with my family and also will challenge me to be a great professional in business. I am very excited! Thank you for your prayers and being dedicated to go on this writing journey with me. You are so appreciated! 

Recommended Resource: Politics – According to the Bible: A Comprehensive Resource for Understanding Modern Political Issues in Light of Scripture by Wayne Grudem